I am addressing the real problem of bridezillas. For anyone not aware of this phenomena, I will define the term. A “bridezilla,” is a bride, whose behavior is abusive, angry, hysterical, overwrought, offensive, paranoid and delusional, or even violent, in time of planning or during her wedding. In my experience, as a Maui wedding planner, I have noticed that this unfortunate condition is becoming more common. I have heard speculation that the popularity of TV shows, such as the “Bridezillas” reality shows, are actually normalizing and encouraging the prevalence of bridezilla behavior.
So, engaged ladies, I give you some reasons, here, to not allow yourselves to indulge in bridezilla-ness.
Bridezillas…
1) Hinder the success of their own wedding. Their rude, impulsive, aggressive behaviors alienate and confuse wedding planners, dress designers, caterers, site providers, florists, etc. While professionals will try to do their best, anyway, hysterical harassment provokes attacks of post traumatic stress disorder. Do you want your seamstress to be shaking and crying while she snips and pins your wedding dress? Do you want your catering staff to hide in the bathroom when they see you coming?
2) Are ugly. Unfortunately, anger and fear cause sleepless nights, compulsive eating and other conditions, which result in black circles under eyes, puffy skin, blemishes, weight problems, bloating and other unattractive symptoms. Is it worth it? Bridezillas are not attractive.
3) Alienate their own family and friends. You might think they will forgive you and just have to put up with you, but that is not always true. Bridezillas are not cute. They tend to resemble the Seawitch in the “The Little Mermaid” animated movie.
4) Worst of all – Bridezillas turn off grooms. I have seen prolonged, intense bridezilla behavior lead to the groom calling the whole thing off.
So, brides, it’s worth the effort to be nice.
THE END
Rev. Ayesha Sandra Lee, MC, MFT has a degree in communications from the University of Hawaii and a Masters degree in Marriage and Family Therapy from the University of Phoenix. She is a licensed, ordained minister and counselor. She owns, operates and is the head wedding planner for Merry Maui Weddings – on the web at: http://www.merrymauiweddings.com. She is a published writer, a happily married wife, mother of three children, grandmother of five grandchildren and resides in Maui, Hawaii.
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©2009 Rev. Ayesha Sandra Lee, MC, MFT
Okay, this is the question, ladies: Do you want to wear your wedding dress or do you want it to wear you (out)?